Your Daughter's Abortion

A grandparent - that's you - of a baby you can never see, can never hold, can never "spoil," because your grandchild died during the "termination" of your daughter's pregnancy. How do you feel about that? How do you feel toward your daughter -- bitter, angry, relieved, compassionate, confused, guilty, ashamed, hurt?

Think About It

Did you know about the abortion beforehand? Did you attempt to meet your daughter's needs whatever they were, so she could carry her baby to term? Or did you go along with your daughter's decision? Perhaps you were the wrong person who counseled your daughter that abortion was the right "choice." Do you regret the part you may have played in your daughter's abortion? Or do you feel guilty because, "There must have been something more I could have done to stop it"?

One thing is certain -- you and your daughter have both suffered a major loss. Let this irreversible fact draw you together, rather than rip you apart.

Where Do You Go From Here?

She's still Your Daughter!!! Perhaps she broke your heart because she didn't trust you enough to tell you she was pregnant, or perhaps she ignored all you had taught her, or perhaps she wouldn't listen to your advice not to have the abortion. However, God gives us children for life. You will always be your daughter's parent. She will always be your child ... no matter what.

Realize your daughter may have had the abortion to spare you the disgrace....

Understand your daughter may not have considered that abortion kills an unborn baby....

Comfort your daughter as she experiences spiritual and emotional turmoil, which is a consequence of her abortion decision....

Mending Broken Relationships

Possibly your relationship with your daughter wasn't good at the best of times....

More importantly your daughter's abortion has damaged her relationship with God....

However, God still loves your daughter and wants her reconciled back to Him.

Come to God through Jesus Christ and receive forgiveness for any guilt....

Build a new relationship with your daughter based on the principles set forth in the Bible....

Adapted from the Focu on the Family booklet "Your Daughter's Abortion and You." If you would like to get a copy of the entire booklet, please come and visit us - Elgin Pregnancy Care Center, at ______________________________________________**